Enjoy texting but you aren’t getting the kind of response from your guy or gal that you are hoping for? Here are a few tips that might help you successfully text on the phone with your shy significant other, or the person you are hoping will become that significant other. Whether you are trying to woo or merely maintain a relationship with a shy person, certain things should be kept in mind when texting. Be respectful of your recipient with what is appropriate and appreciated. Maybe what you write in text, you could say personally, do a mix of both texting and communicating face to face. How to text a shy guy/girl requires being able to assess your partner’s mood and tone.
Take the Lead
In a relationship, there is often someone who needs to be the instigator. It’s for sure that if you are dealing with a shy guy or girl, you are going to need to take the initiative. Whether it’s in person or by text, you will need to set the standard. Text thoughtfully and discretely. Don’t just bombard them with all your heart and soul at once. Take your time. Be the leader but also be sensitive to never overwhelm the shy person or they may just retreat farther than you can reach them. Keep taking the lead, let them know you care for them and that they can trust in you.
Build up a relationship with compliments, observations, and positive feedback, and make texting a positive experience for both of you. That shy individual you are texting may deeply appreciate that you are taking the lead, but they are unable to say so. In fact, they may also be a creative individual, and shy, creative people are a breed unto themselves. They can tend to be sensitive and shy too. So even if you aren’t getting the response that you want, keep trying.
Text Simply and Straightforwardly
Start off light in your communication texting and wait to see the kind of responses you are receiving back. Have the text be simple and straightforward. Start light and key into the kind of responses you get back. Let those responses guide you as to the next step. Be inquisitive as shy people usually need some coaxing to open the dialogue. It’s important to ask questions that make that person feel comfortable.
Don’t ask too much but still say enough
Shy people often appreciate your straightforwardness as they can tend to be vague and hidden. Be respectful and insightful about the person you are talking to and they may be more inclined to talk to you. Simple dialogue gives you a clearer understanding of how to proceed.
Reciprocity is Key
It takes time to be able to read your shy partner, once you have strong communication texting is easy. Still, getting to know that “one” you are interested in may take some work. Text in tandem with their words and you are sure to get the kind of responsiveness you are wanting.
Reciprocity is key. If you are wanting to get flirtatious with your girl or guy, try saying something subtle like a compliment. If you get a “thank you” you may want to step it up with something more seductive. Who knows, maybe that text will get so hot and heavy and lead to other things later that eventually your guy not only will want to marry you but will be ready to have a baby with you too. But if you don’t get a seductive answerback, it’s probably a good idea to leave the flirtatious comments for a later time.
Take time to develop a relationship over text
Some shy people feel that putting their feelings down in words makes them vulnerable. They feel like those kinds of feelings are personal and that texting is more of a public display. On the other hand, texting may be easier to say what they want. You may find that your shy guy or girl may open up more by text than face to face, that is why you may be inclined to text. It’s a way to give shy people a safe place to express themselves.
When to Talk and When to Text
Is your shy partner able to communicate better in person than by text? If yes is your answer maybe texting isn’t the best way to express your feelings and texting should be more about what you did during the day or where you want to go for dinner. If you are unsure what they want, simply ask them if they like to text and what they’re comfortable texting about. This is all of course if you are close enough to ask this shy person about their preference. If you’re not close, you will have to let the texts speak for themselves.
Whether they want to talk by text or in the same room, care enough to find out. How to text a shy guy/girl isn’t easy but can be a lot of fun. Get them to reveal themselves and then heat up the texts. You never know that shy guy or girl may just text something to turn the tables and intimidate you!
Texting is Fun
Much has been said about the shy person but what about you? Texting can be a load of fun when texting a more reserved individual. The tension can build in anticipation of what and if that timid guy or girl is going to say. Maybe it will be someone who does like to text whose shyness is lifted with the comfort of some space between you two. Words exchanged by phone may open conversations in person.
Again, be a leader but also follow his or her lead with reciprocal sensitivity when texting. Be playful in your texting and flirt with words just like you would flirt in each other’s presence. It’s fun! Use quotes from songs or poems. Make up your own words of love. It’s a time to get creative and use your phone as a tool to deepen a relationship with a shy person.
Texting is a Tool
The cell phone so often in our hands is a device that gives us access to all kinds of information. Some of the information we can gather is information about each other. Use your cell phone to gather the knowledge you will need about how to text your shy guy or girl. Texting streamlines a record of conversations. Go back and read the texts between you and your other in order to give some more thought to what you’ve both said in the past.
So often what we say to each other can go in and out of our heads so fast but with a history of what has been said, you can take more time and understanding to assess what’s been said. Go back and look at the things you wrote that they warmed up about and try using some of those strategies again. It’s important to study that shy person until you finally really know them.
Ask questions
Most people respond to being asked questions. It tells the listener that someone cares enough to want to know about them. Shy people need help coming out of their shells and by texting questions to them they are likely to answer. Maybe your boyfriend doesn’t like kissing and you want to know why. Asking a question like this by text can take the embarrassment and pressure off of the other person to some extent. Text questions that will help you find out what they like and don’t like. Even if the answers are short, it’s a start.
Find out what they like to do and what kind of relationship they are looking for.
How to text a shy guy or girl is easy if you use some tact and curiosity
Don’t be discouraged if they don’t seem as interested in you as you are in them. You don’t know what they are thinking, and it could be very well that they just don’t know how to ask you. By asking them questions, they will start to feel like it’s okay to ask you questions too.
In order to text a shy guy or girl, it will take some thinking through. Texting is a great platform for greater intimacy. It’s important that you simply know how to use the tool of texting for this to take place. Start off by taking the lead and move into texting that is simple and straightforward. Remember that reciprocity is key, you need to meet that person where they’re at and not overwhelm them with verbiage that is too much for them to handle.
If they aren’t responding to your texts, look and see if you need to tone it down. Assess when it’s appropriate to talk and when it’s appropriate to text. Have fun with texting, it can be a blast if you have a willing participant. Remember, texting is a tool. You can use it to look back at previous texts and gain an even deeper understanding of what the person has said previously. Finally, be sure and ask questions and let that person you desire know you care. Texting is easy with a shy person you just need to know how to do it. Try these approaches to how to text a shy guy/girl and you are sure to succeed.
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